Listening

Recently, I came up with a simple theory about people and the world of listening. Mind you I'm not an expert. This is just my opinion. Here goes.

In this world, there are two types of listeners: Genuine and non-genuine. Genuine listeners are those who can listen to ANYONE, whereas non-genuine listeners only choose people to listen to, and they don't listen to the rest. So how do we identify whose genuine and whose not? Simple.

1. Non-genuine listeners, as mentioned earlier, will only choose people to listen to. This means that to others, they will not give their full attention. They will tend to look away, let themselves be distracted to other things, and so on.

2. Another type of non-genuine listeners will tend to bring the focus to THEMSELVES. For example, if A is sharing with X, and X suddenly shares about an experience that X experienced before, but the "spotlight" SHIFTS to X, it ends up X doing the talking when A is having a problem. Genuine listeners are different. They may share as well, but they will lead it back to the speaker's problem.

3. The next type of non-genuine listeners will try to solve the speaker's problem quickly. Example, A is sharing with X, but X thinks X knows what to do with the problem, and tries to help A out, by telling A what A should do.

4. The last type of non-genuine listeners will try to shut the speaker out quickly. It's somehow related to number 3, though a bit different. Instead of trying to solve the problem, they will say, "Ahh, it's ok. Just don't bother about the situaion. Why think so much?" etc.

Genuine listeners however, are none of the above, WITH the exception of number 1. They will give their best attention, make sure that the speaker is being listened to, affirm the speaker, asks questions to make the speaker share more, and not saying ANYTHING. In the end, if it's required, try to give some advice and be encouraging. It's not just in sharing-problem-conversations; ANY kind of conversation at all for that matter.

Common sense? Ya.

If you readers think you fall under any of the four types, you know what to do, 'cause you either change or be changed. If you think you're genuine, then good for you. Prove it.

You'll never know if anyone needs a listening ear...

-eNd-

Home Language

This is something random that I made up myself. Kinda nice. Hee

When you are home
Your mom will always ask you to:
Do this
Buy that
Pluck those
Wash everything
And one rule
They always make
When nobody's at home
Always lock the gate

-eNd-

You Alone Are God - Hillsong

I confess my hope
In the light of Your salvation
Where I lose myself
I will find You're all I need

Sing my soul
Of the Saviour's love
Sing my soul
Unto God alone

I will meet You here
In the life we call surrender
Let the world I know
Be the glory of Your grace

You alone are God
You alone are God
We declare the glory of Your name

Reign in all the earth
Reign in all the earth Jesus

Gracious me, it's his turn now...

"We would like to think we could offer him a different challenge," said Hughes.

"From my own experience, when you have been with a club a long time, you maybe get to a point when you need a new challenge, when you think a change of scenery would just re-ignite certain things within you.

"It is not a question of money. It's about a different challenge, a different stage in his life and career, and maybe that's why there hasn't been a response because John is seriously thinking in those terms."

Mark Hughes, manager of Manchester City

Retrieved from www.msnsports.skysport.com

Man, this is what money can do to you...

Manchester City, now one of the most richest clubs in the world, are trying their best to be a La Real Madrid, or a La Chelski perhaps: spending their way to success. They did suck at it at first, making a 145 million pound bid for AC Milan playmaker Kaka, who in the end went for Madrid for less than half THAT amount (blek), but now, they ain't doing back. They managed to sign Roque Santa Cruz from Blackburn, attract Gareth Barry from Aston Villa, and man are they EVER improving, stealing Carlos Tevez from (guess where), their neighbours and Premier League champions Manchester United! I was kind of impressed, but up till the quote above popped out, then I stopped.

Come on man, anyone can read between the lines. New challenge? Man, John Terry hasn't even won the Champions League with Chelsea yet! That's the only missing medal in his CV at the moment, and that will be what he wants to win with Chelsea. Why would he want to start from scratch again, and try to win everything again? He's too old for that.

Anyways, he's too good for you. He'd probably play for half a season, and decide to go back to Chelsea. And it's not about the money? Or are you trying to say, "in other words, IT'S about the money"? 'Cause as far as I'm concern, he is very well paid at Stamford Bridge, and how much more can you offer him? Man, this is what I call "Twisting and Turning" a story.

Well, if he does sign for City, I'd be VERY. And I mean, VERY, suprised. Whose to know though. This is football. Anything can happen in football.

Just like how Beckham signed for LA Galaxy.

-eNd-

Deleted Scene

To all my readers: The previous post (If you know which one it is) was deleted as I have decided not to simply pass judgement before knowing the whole story. Just so you people know, it's messier than I previously first thought or heard. And I found out today that "he" added another piece of dirt into the picture. Damn it.

Man, God bless this batch of EL students, 'cause there seems to be NO END to all this trouble-making stories and "politics". Well, perhaps that's life.

I need a break. Can I quit?

-eNd-

The GG Gang =P

The GG Trio: Daniel, PeiLee and ME

Birthday Girl asked this: Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the GG-est of 'em all?

~Good question^^~

-eNd-

Birthday shoutouts...

Seems that many people are celebrating birthdays this month, but as for yesterday (7/7/2009), two people celebrated their birthdays. And how sweet, they both know each other too! So here's a shoutout to both Chan Mun Yee and Shirley Lee. HaPpy Birthday!!! May the both of you continue to find joy in whatever you do (teaching in UTAR? Hee), and that as you grow a year older (kekeke), both will continue to smile more, and stay healthy always! God bless ya both.

Ps: Ed, I'm waiting for November!!! *winks*

-eNd-